Last Summer as Family of Five Is Over

Hello. It is September in a few weeks! Football season is starting, temps are about to decline, school is back in session next week and BAM…just like that summer 2016 is over.

For us, it was our last summer as a family of five and it was a wild and crazy one at that. It was strange yet exciting all in one. No Korea Camp, no Camp Thurman for the kids, no Galveston beach trip…just other things that consumed our time and money as we pushed on down the road of the adoption of Zane. Instead our summer was a financially stressful one waiting on court dates, etc from Korea.

It was a fun summer though and we made some new memories we will all take .with us forever as a family of five. Kids made it to VBS and kids camp. They got some time at the waterpark and Six Flags thanks to some cheap season passes we bought earlier. We made a few Rangers games and celebrated Quinn turning 9 and the girls turning 11. The Locks came in town for a visit from Colorado and we spent alot of time with our families and church friends. We went to Korea to visit Zane and then we drove out to Florida for the beach wedding of Maci. That was a nice week long getaway right there as we drove through Tampa Bay, St. Petersburg, Clearwater (our favorite!) and then Panama City.

Now we wait for the final call to bring Zane home and get our new “normal” started. I am ready too. Summer 2016 was one of a kind…next year we hope to go back to some old traditions for the first time as a family of six!

Summer 2016…The Last as a Family of Five

The kids are out of school and life has been nutty ever since. We are in our last few months of being a family of five!

Funds are tight this year, but the kids have come up with another Summer of Fun list that has included visits with grandparents, SixFlags, a fun visit with the Locks family in from Colorado and fun with other church friends. We have also enjoyed the pool, Hurricane Harbor, Rangers baseball and a few movies here and there too, as Finding Dori was a big hit. We will end the summer driving out to Florida for a few days to partake in Maci getting married to Daniel.

Most of the summer has been focused of course on the adoption of our 4th child and getting him home by the end of the summer if we can. All things are go and everything needed for approval has been approved. We are a matter of weeks of becoming a family of 6. Zane will be here soon.

Quinn will be 9 in a few weeks and the girls will turn 11 at the end of August…both blow my mind!

We have spent alot of time together this summer and it’s been really fun. We have some tough, different days ahead of us so we are soaking it all in!

Life is good and so is God.

These Holidays Are Special

Two months ago I wasn’t sure what to expect when Grandma Kat was diagnosed with a ruptured appendix and ended up having a big chunk of her intestines taken out. She is 92 after all. Was thinking this might be it…

Yet, just yesterday she was there at home for our annual Thanksgiving lunch. What a blessing. God is good and He must still have something for her to do!

This year has been a challenge for sure, but at the same time it has gone fast with many new things taking place. We are down to the final stages of adopting another child and we hope to have him home sometime in early to mid 2016. I still can’t believe my girls are 10 and Quinn is halfway to 9! How is it that it has already been 7 years since we went to Korea to bring him home!? Now we are looking at going back soon to bring Zane home. Wow. Time does fly.

We spent yesterday with Julie’s parents and her sister’s family down from Iowa. That was a ton of fun too. Really love those people and the kids got to spend some much needed time with their cousins!

I am learning in my “old age” that life is to be cherished and it is certainly more important than money, success or fame.

I am just glad we had another great Thanksgiving with Grandma. You never know how many of those special times you get in life.

 

A Decade of Kids

It was 10 years ago that there was a moment in time in which we weren’t sure we were going to be parents of twins after all. Chloe was pulled out of Julie’s belly pale and without a speck of life in her body.

Time stopped. I still choke up thinking about it a decade later.

Thank God she finally breathed.

I told myself right then and there that nothing else would ever be has hard as those few minutes and the next few days were. Everything else that tries to stress me out? Meh. Sorry. Try again. I nearly watched my child die so you ain’t got nothing on me.

Here we are. Ten years later. Twin girls turning 10, a boy that’s 8 and another boy on the way that’s about to be three. (Yea, it’s not that Julie is 36 months pregnant – we are adopting again).

Being a parent is hard, but frankly, if I wasn’t one I am not sure what I’d live for. Life would be absent of poopy diapers, vomit stains, category 5 fits, buck teeth, braces, farts and burps, disney channel, the Wiggles, wrong wordings like saying “Home Peepo”, runs for donuts, six flags rides, disney world and mickey mouse, animated films, picking out puppy dogs, piles of stuffed animals, legos, luvies, cuddles, every light being left on all day – everyday, growing pains, driveway play time, bike rides, beach trips, girl drama, boy drama, outfit and hair drama, night time prayers and tuck-ins, fun Skype calls, tears over a pet, Teen Beach Movie, chasing dogs down the road because of an open door, singing “poop goes in the potty” while driving up Mt. Evans, Christmas morning present blitzes, sleepovers, camps, puppet talks with Alfred and Mustard, ice cream runs, cookies at 1o, the little gym, dressing like cows for free food, Fruit Loops, snow cones, all in one bed moments, made up Mickey stories, tickle fights, laser tag, city tours, silly faces and made up songs like “Bad Butt”.

I could go on, but it’s already 1:00 in the morning. Yea, this is about the only quiet time you get as a dad.

But when they’re grown and gone, I know I will wish it be this way again. Hopefully we will have decades down the road of peace and quiet. For now, I’ll take getting 5 ours of sleep a night, working my rear off to pay for the braces, and dealing with the 30 minute eating out debates.

For 10 years now Julie and I have lived the family life in full throttle mode. Sure we could be a lot richer and our retirement accounts might set the world on fire. But for now, my answer is “all of the above” and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

You Only Get to Do This Once

This week I got to spend some one on one time with my son Quinn. That doesn’t happen enough as a busy dad trying make ends meet and staying busy. The girls and Julie spent the week at church camp, so I took some time to spend with him. In a matter of weeks he will be 8. I know I will blink and he will be 18. My girls turn 10 in 60 days.

I love being a dad.

Many of my friends have older kids that are already young adults and out of the house. My own niece is cranking out college and that is mind bending too.

One day he won’t be my only son as we are adopting again but he will always be my first son.  So it’s important that this bond always remains strong. After all, what is life more about than making sure family is first? God gave them to me and it’s my job to love, protect and cherish them. They are gifts and I am fully aware of that daily.

One day my littles won’t be little and that already saddens me. Time never stands still.

Kids aren’t kids long and though we will always be their parents, this time in our lives will only happen once. And once it’s gone, it’s gone forever. Though I’m sure I will have regrets (no one is perfect) I can only hope I never regret not spending more time with them now. In the end careers, jobs, money, things, sports, busyness and the like won’t matter a hill of beans.

Life is good and being a parent makes it even better. If you are one, don’t ever forget that.

Kids aren’t kids long and cherish them we must.

 

I am Brady Speers. I am a father of four and I married an amazing woman named Julie. I have degrees from both Howard Payne University and Baylor University. We live in wonderful little town south of Dallas/Fort Worth and I get to help people plan safe retirements and I love spending time as a dad. I’m blessed to have an amazing family close by and tons of awesome friends. We have two dogs (Charlie and Zoe) and my pastimes include sports, photography and writing. One day my book “No Bones About It” will get published. If only time would stand still long enough. Check my personal page out at www.bradyspeers.net